Manage your mindset
Your thoughts are not facts!
Today, over 1 in 4 people experience a mental health disorder in the UK*, whether this be due to personal, professional or financial pressures. However, Dr Hayley Poole, the Clinical Director at Purple House Clinic Rugby, believes that learning to be the master of your mind can help you regulate your emotions, develop resilience and embrace new challenges - allowing you to gain a healthier perspective of your life and its challenges.
Your thoughts are not facts
Whilst discouraging thoughts and emotional setbacks are usual for everyone to experience, life experiences or traumatic events may lead a person to struggle with negative and overwhelming thoughts. Human beings are designed to avoid pain, so it is only natural that we would want to avoid upsetting thoughts and feelings. But, with people usually experiencing stressful or intrusive thoughts about things that are important to them two these thoughts are usually hard to escape from.
The more you try to push them from your mind – however rational or irrational they may be – the more they persist. This is why it is essential to recognise you are doing this and to work on acknowledging them. In becoming aware of your thoughts, you can work on accepting them or reframing them, reminding yourself that your thoughts are not facts and helping yourself to rationalise your perspective on a situation. Not giving power to your upsetting thoughts and keeping the circumstances in perspective can help you manage your worries, and therefore your mindset.
Be your own number one fan
How we speak to ourselves is another element we can take hold of to manage our mindset. It can be all too easy to be self-critical if we do something wrong or blame ourselves if we are faced with difficulties. But by talking to ourselves as we would a friend, we can slowly but surely increase our confidence. The number of Brits reporting low self-esteem has tripled in the last two decades from 7% to 20%*, suggesting that now more than ever, we need to be kind to ourselves.
Try to think about situations where negative thoughts and self-reflections occur most often so you can gain a greater perspective on how your thoughts can cause emotional reactions. Then, the next time you recognise you are using critical self-talk, try to stop yourself by taking a step back, observing what you are thinking and then remind yourself you are doing the best you can. This opens up choices to think. As we grow our self-belief, we begin to consider what is possible, rather than what can go wrong – leading to a happier and more ambitious you, inside and outside the workplace.
Find a therapeutic coping strategy that works for you
Therapy can mean many things and does not always need to take place with a professional present. There are many self-help resources out there and it is about finding one that works for the individual. From guided meditation where you can visualise positive, peaceful scenarios to promote a calmer state of mind to learning breathing techniques to help slow your thoughts and physical reactions down, there are a whole host of strategies you can try to help manage your mindset. Writing things down has also always been a great way to help focus our minds - although it is a simple act, writing down our thoughts and feelings is a great way to make sense of what we are experiencing and can open up new ideas regarding coping or ways forward.
But, at the end of the day, sometimes we need the help of a professional to work through thoughts, feelings and behaviour that are affecting our professional and personal relationships and overall wellbeing. In a safe and welcoming space, a therapist can help you identify and explore underlying issues, and their relationship to current mindset and coping.
Contact Dr Hayley Poole for more information on 01788 228055
www.purplehouseclinic.co.uk/psychologists-rugby
*MYNDUP, 2023, Mental health statistics 2023
“Today, over 1 in 4 people experience a mental health disorder in the UK*, whether this be due to personal, professional or financial pressures.”